Divorced couple, new spouses win co-parenting at daughter's soccer game.
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Divorce can be hard on kids, but these parents are determined to show unity for the sake of their daughter.
Maelyn is 4, and she's thrilled to be playing soccer — almost as thrilled as her parents are to be able to support her while doing so. Both sets of parents, that is.
All of the parents were excited to share in the moment.
"Because of us, I will never believe co-parenting can't work," said Emilee Player, Maelyn's step-mom, in a Facebook post that has since been shared 83,000 times. "I know through experience it can work!"
Cazeau explained that all four parents can't come to every game, but when they do, they make sure to bust out the customized jerseys.
And Maelyn? She loves the jerseys, but mostly because her number is on the back.
"I think she likes that it says her number," Player told TODAY. "She was pretty excited when she saw them."
Cazeau has really gotten into the customized shirts, and has even ordered them for their joint family Christmas celebrations.
One thing is for sure, Maelyn is one lucky girl to have two sets of parents that are so willing to set aside their own issues with one another.
"You can learn how to put your differences aside and do what's best for your kid," said Player. "At the end of the day your kid is watching you, and we want to teach Maelyn to love other people."
Wisconsin Couple Has Three Sets of Twins - All Born on the Same Day! 'There Is Never a Dull Moment'
Carrie Kosinski dreamed of being a mother to a large family from the time she was a small child. So when doctors told her and her husband, Craig Kosinski, that they couldn't have children naturally, she was devastated. Then fate intervened.
In July 2013, an acquaintance who was several months pregnant contacted her on Facebook to see if she and her husband wanted to adopt her baby. They agreed - but didn't find out until later she was actually expecting twins. Adalynn and Kenna were born on Feb. 28, 2014.
The following year, the same woman reached out to them to say she could no longer care for her other set of twins - JJ and CeCe - so the couple welcomed them into their family as well. (They were also born on Feb. 28, but in 2013).
Then last year, Carrie gave birth to twins via in vitro fertilization - on Feb. 28.
"There is never a dull moment in my house," she says, laughing.
It's such a wildly improbable, statistically nearly impossible thing to happen, they still can't even believe it sometimes, she says.
And none of it was intentional.
"All three sets of twins were [born] by emergency C-section," Carrie, 28, of Yorkville, Wisconsin, tells PEOPLE. "I get that question a lot. 'Did you plan it? It was a C-section. It must have been planned.' No. Mine was at 24 weeks. I did not plan on them being born at 24 weeks."
But adopting was always the plan - even before they were told they could not have children naturally, she says.
"We did it backward," says Carrie, who is herself adopted. "We were going to have our own kids first then adopt but apparently God had other plans for us."
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The adoptions of the first two sets of twins aren't final yet - strictly for financial reasons.
"We'd started the process of adopting the [now] 3-year-old twins when the birth mom contacted us about taking the [now] 4-year-old twins," she says. "So we put the adoption of the 3 year olds on hold just in case we were going to be adopting the 4 year olds as well. It's cheaper to do it all together than separate adoptions."
The adoption costs are huge. They live on the salary of her husband, Craig, 43, who is an accountant. The family has fundraising sites on GoFundMe and AdoptTogether - and recently found out they got a $4,000 grant from bestselling novelist Karen Kingsbury's One Chance Foundation,
"We are actually about $2,500 from our goal for the adoption,"she says. "Our goal is $15,000. Altogether it's $18,000, but we wanted to pay some of the costs ourselves."
Getting the adoptions finalized is hugely important to them, she says.
"It would mean so much because there's so many unknowns," she says. "What if they eventually find the birth fathers? They don't know who they are. There all these what ifs. We could not fathom losing them. They're our children. We believe we are meant to have them...To just make them ours would be a huge blessing to us."
And someday, she says, they wouldn't mind adding to the family.
"Maybe in a few years," she says.
The youngest twins were preemies - each born weighing just 1 pound, 6 ounces - and have some developmental issues, she says.
"So we want to focus on them and get the adoption finalized," she says. "My husband would like another one eventually because right now we have one boy and five girls..so maybe in like a couple of years."
And what if she has twins again?
"Twins would be fun," she says, then jokingly adds, "as long as they are born on February 28."
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Original Post By: GEANA JAVIER | Evergreen columnist @ The Daily Evergreen
It has been 50 years since the U.S. Supreme Court released a ruling that interracial marriage restrictions were unconstitutional. Since then, interracial relationships have become increasingly accepted.
Due to the growing amount of diversity and mixed-race citizens in America, media outlets should further normalize interracial relationships.
The media as a whole plays a dramatic role in influencing public perceptions, and portraying interracial relationships is crucial to reducing stigmas based on ethnicity.
However, contemporary American society still has a long way to go in order to accept interracial relationships as normal.
Public outrage erupted when Old Navy released an ad featuring a white male, a black female and a mixed-race child. Twitter users claimed that Old Navy supported “genocide of the white race,” and called the ad “absolutely disgusting,” according to an article from Today Magazine.
It is downright atrocious that some Americans hold such a deep hatred for interracial couples that they felt the need to express such views on social media.
All humans deserve the right to actively consent to, and participate in, relationships with anyone from any ethnic background without racist backlash.
The reality is this is not currently the case.
Yes, in the 21st century, people have told me “why don’t you date your own kind?” or “I like you because you look exotic.”
Why shouldn’t I, or anyone else, be allowed to date outside our ethnicities? There is no logical answer to this question. I refuse to be told that I can only date people who share my ethnic background.
As for the comments fetishizing my “exotic” looks, initiating a relationship based purely on my ethnic physical appearance is not only humiliating, it’s racist. In these instances, I am merely a sex object. Quite often the males who call me “exotic” also try to woo me with statements like “you give me yellow fever,” or “I’ve never dated an Asian girl before,” as if I should feel special for being the first.
I’ve been the target of a constant stream of unsolicited, degrading comments regarding my romantic choices and racial background. These personal experiences lead me to believe that some Americans still don’t see interracial relationships as equal to same-race relationships.
However, between 2000 and 2010, the number of biracial black and white Americans has more than doubled, according to the U.S. Census Bureau. The same study found that adult citizens with both white and Asian backgrounds has increased by 87 percent.
If the number of multiracial citizens is increasing, then it is likely that romantic relationships between minorities and the white population are also increasing.
Media companies should feel morally obligated to include representations of interracial relationships because doing so would be statistically accurate.
The media can help normalize interracial relationships, because the more the majority of the population sees it, the more people will accept these types of relationships as legitimate and deserving of respect.
Geana Javier is a sophomore economics major from Seattle. She can be contacted at 335-2290 or by email@example.com. The opinions expressed in this column are not necessarily those of the staff of The Daily Evergreen or those of The Office of Student Media.
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Two-year-old Sophia was told she could pick out a “special prize” — anything she wants — after she successfully completed potty training.
She was thrilled, and of course, headed straight for the doll aisle when she walked into Target with her mom, Brandi Benner, on Friday afternoon. Scanning the aisles, Sophia passed a row of baby dolls and headed for the “big girl dolls.” One doll in particular caught her eye: a little black girl dressed in a white lab coat, wearing a stethoscope around her neck.
“When she picked [the doll] up and saw that she was a doctor it was game over,” Benner told CBS News. “She got so excited.”
“Mommy! Mommy! Mommy! I want this one. I want this one,” she shouted.
Smiling, Benner picked up the doll, “Oh, absolutely.”
She still had some money left over, so she picked out a Jeep for her new doll to ride around in. Together, Sophia and her mother walked to the cash register to check out. As always, Sophia offered to “pay” for the items — and by pay, she means put the toys on the conveyer belt.
She was greeted by the cashier, who asked, “Are you going to a birthday party?”
Confused, Sophia ignored the question and continued to stare at her beloved prize.
Then the cashier pointed to the doll, whose name is Megan, and asked if she picked her out for a friend.
Benner spoke up, explaining to the cashier that Sophia was getting a reward for using the potty.
“I am not ashamed that’s how I did it, because it works,” joked Benner about using the doll as incentive for potty training.
The woman gave Benner a puzzled look and turned to Sophia and asked, “Are you sure this is the doll you want, honey?”
At that point, Benner recalls she was starting to feel protective of Sophia, hoping she wouldn’t understand why the woman was questioning her choice of doll. But just as she was about to speak up, Sophia interjected, “Yes, please!”
The cashier replied, “But she doesn’t look like you. We have lots of other dolls that look more like you.”
Sophia responded, “Yes, she does. She’s a doctor like I’m a doctor. And I’m a pretty girl and she’s a pretty girl. See her pretty hair? And see her stethoscope?” her mother said.
The cashier simply responded with an “Oh, that’s nice.” She finished ringing up the family and they were on her way. Sophia didn’t think twice about the exchange, unlike Benner.
The mother of two — Sophia, 2, and Isabelle, 7 months — wanted to share the story with her Facebook friends.
“This experience just confirmed my belief that we aren’t born with the idea that color matters. Skin comes in different colors just like hair and eyes and every shade is beautiful,” Benner wrote in a post that has since gone viral with more than 201,000 shares.
While Benner is happy people are spreading the message, she feels it’s sad that it had to be said in the first place.
“It’s sad that such a small act has become national news,” she said. “In a sense it shouldn’t be surprising that a kid of one color wanted a doll of another — that shouldn’t be such a huge thing.”
Fortunately, her daughter wasn’t fased by it.
“What if she had been older — like 7, 8 or 9?” Benner asked. “Then she would have experienced more of the world and been more aware of cultural ‘dos and don’ts,’ and maybe would have second guessed [herself]. She maybe wouldn’t have been so quick to stick up for herself.”
Benner just hopes her daughter keeps her spunky spirit, and her dream to become a doctor.
Sophia first learned the word “stethoscope” from the TV cartoon “Doc McStuffins.” And her pediatrician allows the little girl to play with the tools in her doctor bag, which led to her desire to work in medicine someday.
That’s why, to Sophia, the doll’s skin tone doesn’t matter — all that matters is that she helps people, just like Sophia wants to do.
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For the past 11 years, Joe Thomas has walked into work at IHOP in Springfield, Illinois, with a spring in his step and a smile on his face.
He knows all of his “regulars” by name, and since the 43-year-old waiter doesn’t have any children of his own, he treats any little ones that come into the restaurant like relatives. It’s something customers have come to expect.
“I love the people,” Thomas told CBS News. “I just love my life, and I love the way I am.”
Now the internet is falling in love with Thomas, too.
A photo of the waiter went viral over the weekend after he was spotted feeding a woman with Huntington disease, a genetic disorder that causes the progressive breakdown of nerve cells in the brain. Her husband sat across the table, eating his usual — two eggs over easy, a side of sausage and a buttered pancake with a single egg on top.
Thomas has come to know the couple, who visit the local IHOP at least once a week, very well. The woman’s husband would alway feed her first, allowing his own food to go cold.
Then one day, after delivering their order, Thomas sat down next to the woman, waved her husband away and started cutting up her eggs and feeding her.
“I didn’t really offer. I just started doing it,” Thomas said. “I told the gentleman to ‘Sit down, eat your food. I got her.’”
The man graciously accepted Thomas’ kind offer, and from that day on, that became their new routine.
“I really treat people like I want to be treated,” Thomas said. “If I get to be that age and something happened to me I would want someone to help me out.”
Customer Keshia Dotson was sitting a few tables away when she watched Thomas take a cloth napkin and lightly dab the woman’s mouth after feeding her. She was touched by the waiter’s sweet gesture.
“She was coughing and then would gag really loud almost like she was choking,” Dotson described to CBS News. “The first time she did it almost the entire restaurant went silent and he cracked a joke and reduced the tension. It wasn’t long after that that we noticed him sitting down with her and helping feed her and once she was done get her all cleaned up.”
Dotson was so impressed by Thomas that she posted a picture of him on Facebook, alerting IHOP to the “touching moment.” The photo was “liked” and shared by thousands of people.
Hundreds of people commented on the post, including several who knew Thomas personally.
“This is no big deal for him. He does this every time,” IHOP employee Amanda Williams commented. “He’s an awesome coworker.”
“This man is s great server. He’s waited on my family a few times when we’ve been to IHOP,” customer Melissa Roberts wrote. “This warms my heart to see this. What a kind soul.”
Stephanie Peterson, IHOP’s executive director of communications, told CBS News she’s heard through the franchisee and her team that this is “kind of in his nature.”
“He’s always willing to help regular guests that come in,” Peterson said. “This just happened to be captured.”
Before he started working at IHOP, Thomas said he worked in a rehabilitation center for about a year. His mother died from diabetes and then his dad got prostate cancer, so he was used to caring for others.
“I have a soft heart,” Thomas said. “Everything I do is honestly just natural, besides the way my parents raised me. I don’t think about it. I just do it.”
Thomas hopes after hearing his story others will follow in his footsteps, not because he’s telling them to, but because they want to.
“Remember that movie, ‘Pay It Foward’? That’s what I’m hoping for,” he said.
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Boston Mayor Marty Walsh vowed to protect the city's undocumented immigrant population from President Donald Trump in a rousing speech Wednesday where he said he was "deeply disturbed" by the White House's new anti-immigrant stance. Trump ordered Wednesday the construction of a wall along the U.S.-Mexico border. He also said he would stop funding for sanctuary cities that do not help federal authorities detain undocumented immigrants. "The day is over when they can stay in our country and wreak havoc," Trump said, referring to undocumented immigrants. Walsh responded by calling Trump's policies destructive. Roughly 28 percent of Boston's residents are foreign born and 48 percent have at least one parent who is an immigrant.
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LONDON — Inspired by the Women’s March on Washington, people in cities around the world hit the streets on Saturday to show solidarity with Americans and to promote human rights and gender equality in their own countries.
While the march in Washington was forecast to draw about 200,000 people, organizers said other marches dotted around the United States — and indeed the world — could collectively draw crowds 10 times that figure. Organizers said they want to send a bold message to President Trump on his first full day in office that women’s rights are worth defending.
Trump’s campaign was colored by sexist remarks, allegations of sexual assault and lewd comments about women that Trump dismissed as “locker room talk.” Many women voted for Trump, including the majority of white women.
Some organizers have tried to play down the marches as “anti-Trump” and instead emphasize messages of unity.
On a cold and sunny winter’s day, the crowd in London was large and lively. Demonstrators held colorful placards reading “Our voices together can’t be silenced” and, in apparent reference to Trump, “Even Voldemort was better.”
Protesters gathered first outside the U.S. Embassy, and planned to wind their way through central London en route to Trafalgar Square. Among those expected to demonstrate was London Mayor Sadiq Khan.
“As a feminist in City Hall I fully support the fight for gender equality,” Khan said in a statement. “It’s wrong that in 2017 someone’s life chances and fundamental rights are still dependent on their gender.”
Marina Knight, a 43-year-old executive assistant, was marching Saturday with her 9-year-old daughter, Phoebe, and with two other moms and their daughters
“This is her first march — it’s the first time we felt it was vital to march,” Knight said, referring to her daughter. “I feel the rights we take for granted could go backwards and we owe it to our daughters and the next generation to fix this somehow.”
There were “sister marches” taking place in more than 70 countries spread across the continents — including the Antarctic, where a march has been penciled in onboard an expedition ship. The largest rally outside of the United States was expected in London, where according to a Facebook group, about 37,000 were planning to attend, and more than 35,000 were mulling it over.
“People across Europe and the world are campaigning because Donald Trump’s campaign has normalized misogynistic and sexist ideas,” said Catherine Riley, a spokeswoman for the Women’s Equality Party, a political party in Britain that has taken a leading role in organizing the rally.
In Paris, thousands of women and men marched through the city’s grand boulevards in a rejection of the new American president that was organized by a network of French and American feminist organizations.
“We are mobilizing as the new president of the United States prepares to apply the violently sexist, lesbophobic, homophobic, xenophobic and racist ideology that he defended during his campaign,” read the event’s Facebook page, which also listed more than four thousand attendees.
But for Marie Allibert, one of the organizers, the message of the march was not entirely to condemn the words and actions of President Trump.
“It’s more about women’s rights, human rights,” she said. “During the campaign there were lots of misogynist, racist and hateful messages, and that's what we're standing up against.”
Besides, she added, France itself has its own presidential elections looming in April and May, a contest that many have interpreted as a potential next chapter in populist upheaval. Marine le Pen, the leader of the far-right National Front party, is climbing in the polls, and close behind her is the more centrist conservative Francois Fillon, whose opposition to abortion has outraged many women voters.
“There’s a parallel between the situation in the U.S. and the situation in France,” Allibert said. “We have two major candidates that we feminist organizations think are a direct threat to women’s rights.”
It is perhaps remarkable that so many foreigners are marching in demonstrations related to the inauguration of a U.S. president.
But organizers said that interest was almost immediate.
The day after the U.S. election, a plan was hatched to march on Washington. Within hours, the American organizers started fielding requests from people in other countries who couldn’t make it to Washington but wanted to take part.
“In first 24 hours, people from London, Norway, Australia, Canada, Switzerland got in touch saying, ‘Hey, we’d also love to have a march in our country, can you create our own Facebook page for that?’” said Breanne Butler, a chef from New York and one of the event’s global organizers.
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Everybody is a little bit racist, aren’t they? In countries like India and Sri Lanka, we can dress it up as tradition, but we do make choices based on race and shortchange our selves.
Original Source: Written by Chhimi Tenduf La @ The Indian Express.com
For young people such as these to be exposed to different races and ways of thinking allows them to grow as people
There’s a song in the musical comedy Avenue Q called Everybody’s a little bit racist, and I think there’s some truth in that, at least with me. I crack racist jokes as much as the next guy, and, sometimes, I make subconscious assumptions about people based on where they are from. But am I really racist?
I don’t think I can be, because I’m a mongrel. Both my Tibetan father and my English mother were born in India and my wife is a Sri Lankan-Australian; I live in Colombo. When my children are old enough, they will have no idea what race they are because they are almost everything. They couldn’t be racist even if they tried, because they will say “we” more often than “you” and “they”. Being mixed race means that, like me, wherever they are, they will not be deemed to be the same as other people. But they will also not be completely different.
In Sri Lanka, I love people asking me where I am from because I have an unusual answer. A freelance local gangster (who is not the sharpest thorn on the pineapple so I doubt he will read this), baffled by my little eyes, once approached me at a nightclub in Colombo and inquired of my heritage. When I told him, he said he had just met someone of the exact same mix as me and made me wait where I was till he found said person. It turned out to be my brother.
In South Asia, we rightly call out racism in other countries, but more often than not, we expect our children to marry people of the same race as us. If we’re not trusting of another race with our children, isn’t that racist? We can dress it up as tradition or whatever we like, but we are making choices based on race and shortchanging our children by depriving them of the exposure to other cultures, ways of life and values. As a mongrel father, I will never judge my daughter’s future husband based on race and will be completely fair, and hate any man she brings home, regardless of his colour.
Sri Lankans are the friendliest people on earth and are so ridiculously hospitable to tourists and expatriates that they almost practise reverse racism. Being foreign is a key that opens all doors. I have never been stopped from entering a block of flats, for example, whereas my Sri Lankan wife (not that I have others) claims that when she goes to the same places without me, she has to produce her ID card, tap dance and sing the national anthem. This is likely an exaggeration, but it has got to the point that if my wife wants to get “fair” treatment at a shop, she takes our white baby with her. So foreigners get special treatment in this lovely country, but yet, a large number of Sri Lankans would not allow their children to marry them. Why is this?
I wonder how many people would be religious without their parents teaching them to be so at a young age, and, likewise, I wonder how many people would be racist without a similar influence. Older generations have thoughts that border on the racist without knowing it. For example, when the sewage pit overflowed at our home, one of my wife’s Sinhalese relatives, trying to be helpful, said, “I will find you a Tamil to clean it.”
“A Tamil?,” I asked. “Why a Tamil?”
“They are the only ones who clean sewage pits.”
I tried to explain what was wrong with this statement, but to no avail. I illustrated my point by refusing to do the washing up because I was half-white, but the relative just nodded her head as if to say, “Ah yes, of course, sorry.”
When I first met my wife Samantha, she showed me her Australian school photograph in which she was surrounded by 30 people so white their sweat could have been used as Tippex. Samantha admits she felt different than the other students but she loved it. And I love her, I am sure, partly because she is so worldly. Had we met at school and she was the only non-white in her class, I would have gone straight to her anyway, as it is much more interesting speaking to the person with the different story to tell and picture to paint. I love to learn from such people: taste new food, hear new jokes, pick up new mannerisms. I mean, I don’t know where the hell I would be today without my Sri Lankan head wobble.
To understand people of other races, it helps to be able to wear their shoes and mixed-race people have tried on more pairs than anybody else. Sure, we can never feel what victims of hate crimes go through, but we respect their difficulties enough to want to learn about them; to want to make sure our kids never perpetrate or are subjected to such mindless evil. Mixed-race people are exposed to more diverse narratives than the likes of Donald Trump and, thus, we understand the consequences of racial slurs.
Of course, it is not just about being mixed race, it is about embracing other cultures. I manage an international school in Colombo, that has had students from over 70 different countries. In my time, I have taught a lovely young Iraqi who happened to think Saddam Hussein was the greatest man of all time. I have worked on university applications with a Tamil boy from Jaffna who admitted he hated the Sinhalese until he actually spoke to some who were not in army uniform. I have taught a Korean daughter of a missionary who did not believe that gay people existed. When I convinced her that they did, she asked, “Do they have physical attributes by which I can identify them?”
“Do you expect them to have pointed ears?” I asked.
“Something like that,” she said.
For young people such as these to be exposed to different races and ways of thinking allows them to grow as people and know more about what is right and what is wrong, and not worry so much about who is white and who is Wong.
Not everyone has such chances. My brother went travelling on a house-boat, ending up in the middle of nowhere in England. A lady on a passing boat asked him where he was from and when he said he was half-Tibetan, she said, “I’m having such an interesting week with foreigners. Yesterday, I met a negro.” Despite her suspect terminology, she was genuinely thrilled to have had the chance to meet different people.
When I help students apply to universities around the world, I urge them to consider places which are not popular with their fellow nationals so that they are forced to mingle. I tell them of the time in London when I was the only non-black at a Zimbabwean friend’s wedding and I never felt unwelcome or different. That is, until the music started and everyone got up to dance. It was only then that I stuck out like a turd in a punchbowl, because all the Zimbabweans danced bloody brilliantly, and let’s just say I didn’t, and leave it at that.
At that wedding, I tried to remember all the mixed-race people I knew and I could not think of one who was half-Sri Lankan or Indian and half-African and I wondered why that was. I don’t know but all I can be sure of is that if either of my children wanted to marry someone black, I would be absolutely thrilled because then my grandchildren would be able to dance brilliantly. Even that thought, I guess, is a little bit racist.
Chhimi Tenduf-La is the author of The Amazing Racist and Panther.
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For all the talk about immigrants refusing to embrace American ways — a defining controversy of this GOP presidential race — the evidence has been scant.
The National Academies of Sciences deflated most of the myths in a definitive report last year. Today’s immigrants are more educated and better English speakers than their predecessors, and they are far less likely to commit a crime compared to the native-born. They are quickly becoming part of American communities.
In fact, new immigrants may be assimilating a lot faster than than we had ever thought. A new study this week from economists Brian Duncan, of the University of Colorado, and Stephen Trejo of University of Texas, Austin finds that the descendents of immigrants from Latin-American and Asian countries quickly cease to identify as Hispanic or Asian on government surveys.
According to the authors, these are mostly children of interracial couples that aren’t writing down their diverse heritages. Mixed marriages are increasingly common in America — Pew finds that about 26 percent of Hispanics marry a non-Hispanic these days, and 28 percent of Asians marry a non-Asian. To accommodate this trend, government surveys now allow you to check multiple boxes for your race and ethnicity.
But it turns out that many aren’t doing that.
The report from Duncan and Trejo has two major consequences. First, it casts some doubt on the government's projections of the future Hispanic and Asian populations. Famously, the Census Bureau has predicted that non-Hispanic whites will become outnumbered in America by as early as 2044. But as Pew has pointed out, these calculations don’t take into account trends in how the children of mixed marriages report their own race. A fair fraction of people with Asian or Hispanic heritage actually consider themselves exclusively white (or black).
Second, the report may cause us to reconsider what we think we know about Hispanics and Asians. A lot of social science research relies on people to disclose their own racial and ethnic identities. If people who are part-Asian or part-Hispanic stop identifying that way, they, in a way, disappear from the statistics. What we think we know about Hispanics, for instance, may be wrong because a lot of people with Hispanic heritage don't consider themselves Hispanic.
Duncan and Trejo focused on the Current Population Survey, a monthly study of American households that supplies much of what we know about earnings and employment in America. For instance, the CPS is what helps the government calculate the unemployment rate, and it provides data for reports on, say, the racial wage gap.
The CPS contains a number of questions about heritage. People are asked for their race, their ethnicity, where they were born, and where their parents were born. Using this information, Duncan and Trejo analyzed how first- and second-generation immigrants from certain countries self-identified.
They looked at four Latin-American nations (Mexico, Cuba, El Salvador, the Dominican Republic) plus Puerto Rico; they also looked at five Asian nations (China, India, Japan, Korea, and the Philippines).
Among the first-generation Latin-American immigrants — people born in one of those five places — 98.6 percent checked the “Hispanic” box. Likewise, 96.3 percent of the first-generation Asian immigrants identified as Asian.
But the second-generation immigrants were less likely to identify as Hispanic or Asian. Only 93 percent of people with a parent born in a Latin-American country themselves identified as Hispanic. The difference was more dramatic for Asians. Only 79.1 percent of second-generation Asian immigrants identified as even part-Asian.
It’s important to remember that the CPS allows people to check multiple boxes for race. You can be any combination of black, Asian, white, Native American, and so forth. On top of that, the government also asks a separate question about whether you are Hispanic. This means you can be white and Hispanic, black and Hispanic, even white-black-Asian triracial and Hispanic.
The point is that it’s easy for people to indicate complex heritages on the survey form. Yet, many who are multi-racial are not doing this.
They might have Hispanic grandparents, but don't consider themselves Hispanic. They might have an Asian and a black parent, but only consider themselves black.
Duncan and Trejo also have some data on the children of second-generation immigrants, where the trend continues. The CPS asks parents to provide racial information about their kids. Of the kids with at least one Latin-American grandparent, only 81.7 percent were marked down as Hispanic. Of the kids with at least one Asian grandparent, only 57.5 percent were marked down as Asian.
These statistics highlight an overlooked way that immigrants assimilate in America — by literally blending in and blending families with the native-born. "In a lot of ways, intermarriage is the most intimate kind of assimilation," Trejo says.
But this phenomenon may also present problems for researchers looking to measure progress among minorities.
Duncan and Trejo have found that the second-generation Latin-American immigrants who refuse to call themselves Hispanic are more educated, on average, than their counterparts who embrace their Hispanic identity. It’s still unclear how big of a deal this is, but it seems that we have been underestimating the progress of Hispanic immigrants and their offspring because some of the more successful ones don’t mark themselves as “Hispanic” on government surveys.
A lot of this should have been obvious. Immigrants are everywhere in American public life. Countless celebrities, including Frankie Muniz, Aubrey Plaza, and Fergie, are second or third-generation Hispanic. Latina Magazine has a whopping list of 109 stars “you never knew were Latino!”
These are some of the faces that we may want to recognize in any debate about immigration and assimilation in America. The irony is that some have blended in so well, we hardly recognize them as the children of immigrants anymore.
Jeff Guo is a reporter covering economics, domestic policy, and everything empirical. He's from Maryland, but outside the Beltway.
Original Source: Aaron Blake @ The Fix - The Washington Post
Would you believe us if we said you're about as likely to marry someone of a different race as you are someone from the other political party?
Buried inside a new Pew Research Center survey on political polarization is this nugget: Americans say they are overwhelmingly married to people with whom they agree politically. In fact, just 9 percent of Republicans and 8 percent of Democrats say their spouse or partner is a member of the other major political party.
By contrast, Pew estimated in 2015 that 6.3 percent of Americans in 2013 were married to a spouse of a different race. But that number is climbing. It was less than 1 percent in 1970, but about 1 in 8 marriages in 2013 (12 percent) were interracial.
Bipartisan marriages still far outnumber gay marriages -- another fast-increasing kind of marriage, thanks to its nationwide legalization in 2015. Gallup data suggests about 1 million American adults are married to a spouse of the same gender; but that's still less than half a percentage point of the entire U.S. adult population.
A caveat here: While the latter two data points -- on interracial marriage and gay marriage -- are estimates based on hard data, Pew's poll is based on self-reported bipartisan marriages. Fourteen percent of Republicans and 15 percent of Democrats offered no response to Pew, and it's quite possible many of them (or even some who assume their spouse is in line with them politically) are unwittingly in bipartisan marriages. (The horror!)
But in a country that has grown increasingly polarized -- and quickly -- in recent years, it's perhaps no surprise that so few people would choose to spend the rest of their lives with someone from the other side of the political spectrum.
Because while Americans have quickly warmed to the idea of people marrying people of the same gender or a different race, they're moving in the opposite direction when it comes to bipartisan marriage.
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